Before someone decide to engage in a married life, I would like to share some important things to consider that will help couple to be independent in their married life.
Aside from the wedding preparation, couple should also be prepared on where to live or stay after the wedding. Here in the Philippines most couples live with their extended families. There are many advantages living with the extended family but there are also disadvantages. The main disadvantage that I see is independence. Although it is in the Filipino culture and tradition that most grandparents live with their kins, raising family in your own home independently is a better way of living.
We all know that if a couple is just starting up, they don’t have enough savings and strength to be living alone with their own family. Usually the new couples temporarily live with their parents but the question is how long is that being a temporary resident. The problem with this setup is that the couple may prolong the stay as a temporary resident in their parent’s place and it may hinder the capacity of the couple to be independent.
The roots of independence in the newly wed couple should begin right after the wedding. It is best to be separated as early as possible with your extended families and focus on how to raise your own family. Being separated or living in your own home doesn’t mean that you didn’t care for your extended family (parents, grandparents, offsprings, etc.). You may still visit or see your extended family in other times like reunion, birthdays or other occasion. I believe that having a family of your own is now your priority if you enter a marriage life then second is your extended family. Just make sure that God is the center of the family and everything will be fine.
There are many factors that determine on how ready you are to take your marriage life independently. Both couple should discuss and agree on their decision. You may consult experience people close to you about it but the couples decision still matters most. I think that being independent may lead to a good strong foundation to raise a family.